Wow. I have some nerve, don’t I? Disappear for a gazillion years and then just show back up all “waddup friends?” Allow me to explain, and then feel free to throw the stones.
To say that life has been a bit tumultuous and totally not on board with the “Mindy has everything in control” plan is a huge understatement. Just when I thought I’d ironed out all the details, dotted the “I’s” and crossed the “T’s”, a curve ball came flying through the air and smacked me dab in the middle of the forehead.
And boy did it leave a mark.
I have found myself and my family in a position for which no amount of preparedness, planning, overthinking or reasoning will suffice.
After 16 years with a document legally binding our two lives, my husband is choosing a different path and here I find myself staring down a future that bears no resemblance to the original plan.
Deciding to write about this has been a soul searching endeavor and one I’m still a little uncertain over. Although our story is changing Jeremy and I will always be bound by the very best thing we ever did together, parenting our two smart, beautiful, kind children. I, in no way, have any intention of sharing details that don’t matter to the point at hand. Marriage and all of its intricacies is a manner of work that I have yet to find perfected and I know that not one of us has a solid answer to the age-old question of long term survival. So I’m not even going to try and figure that out here.
But what I feel I do have some certainty about is my desire to share my journey from Wife to Woman. The life I have known for a decade-and-a-half is changing. And with any change comes growth and finding that stronger version of yourself hidden deep within the recesses of your biggest fears. Admittedly, this journey is not of my choosing but it’s one that I will embark upon with the same passion and devotion I gave my last adventure.
As I move forward in discovering my new place in this world I hope that my decision to share is met with prayer, support and understanding. I am truly a believer that God will work all things for good and I have no doubt that my faith in Christ and His plan will move me past the pain of my present and the uncertainty of my future into a contented place of acceptance.
Heather I Eason says
Thanks for sharing your heart. We each have a road to travel with mountains and valleys, good times and bad. Knowing you you are in Christ, knowing you have a purpose, and that you are valuable will help you go far in the journey. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the kids. ?
Thank you so much Heather! I appreciate your support!
Your are so very brave! My heart goes out to you and the loss of your old life. I hope your new life and identity become wonderful and even better than all you lost.
Thank you so much! I appreciate that. 🙂
Praying for you tonight
So sorry you are going through this. You are an awesome and beautiful person who has so many good qualities. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and know you will make it through this with gods help!❤️
Thank you Gabby! I appreciate that so much!
Jennifer (lowell) says
You are in my prayers. I traveled this road last year and my divorce was final in march. God is faithfull and will never leave your side. Its a tough journey but you are a tough woman with a good heart.
Thank you Jennifer. I appreciate that so much. 🙂
John, Bobbie Douglas says
Hi, sorry to hear what you going though. Just wanted to let you know you are in our prayers and thoughts in this time. As you said Mindy, keep trusting in God and he will walk with you through this. Love ya John,Bobbie
Thank you John and Bobbie! I appreciate the prayers and support so much! <3
The description and mindset during your “Wife to Woman,” journey seem, from a reader’s point, so healthy. Everyone needs to see “Separation…Divorce” as you see it. Thank you for this blog addition!
Thank you! 🙂